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Holiday visit with the bestest 💛🎄

Holiday visit with the bestest 💛🎄

There’s nothing better than the smell of apple c

There’s nothing better than the smell of apple cinnamon scones in the morning 😋😋😋

I came. I saw. And I almost died which is how I kn

I came. I saw. And I almost died which is how I knew I was aliiiiiiiiiive!

When I first started spinning, it was in a dark room surrounded by people who looked nothing like me. I’m that toom, I rode towards self acceptance and love. A lot has changed since that first ride, and if I’m being honest, I lost a lot of what I gained.

But tonight, in another dark room miles away, I saw a red light beneath my bike and rode towards the future. Was it hard? Yes. Did I do my best? Yes. Could I have done better? Yes. Will I be back? Absofuckinglutely.

Thank you @cyclebarcentercity and Mike for one hell of a ride!

When it comes to change, I can plan and prepare al

When it comes to change, I can plan and prepare all day long. But when it comes to taking action, I fall short. There's comfort and safety in staying the same. Change is hard, change is painful, and change is fucking terrifying.⁣
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These past few years, I've been trapped in the planning phase of prioritizing my physical wellness. I've planned and meal prepped and signed up for classes. I've also gotten fast food, not shown up, and continued to use food as a coping mechanism.⁣
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I find myself saying "One day" a lot. This past week, my therapist asked me, "What if instead of 'one day' you just said 'day one'?"⁣
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If I keep saying "one day", that day is never going to come. So, today I say "day one". And maybe there will be a lot of day ones in the next few months. But if you don't start then shit just stays the same, and I can't do that anymore.⁣
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So, I'm strapping on my cycling cleats and heading to @cyclebarcentercity for my first ride in a long time. I'm scared, but I'm also tired of living in fear. Change is here...let's go, day one.

Moved to tears on this chilly Monday, my friends.

Moved to tears on this chilly Monday, my friends. Less than 24 hours after my awful and triggering encounter at @dibrunobros, I received this response.

DiBruno Bros. not only heard our voices, but is taking actionable change to repair the harm it’s done to the adoption community. When it comes to fighting against the dominant adoption narrative, it can feel hopeless at times. It can feel like we’re screaming at a bunch of people who don’t care, who don’t want to understand. It feels like change is so very far away.

And while this is a small step, it’s still a step forward. It proves that by raising our voices not only are people going to be willing to listen, but things CAN and WILL change.

Thank you, @dibrunobros for your empathy and for making things right. And thank you to everyone who shared, commented, wrote an email, and made their voices heard. It isn’t just one person, one voice. It’s all of us.

To my adoptee warriors, never stop talking, never stop fighting. We are legion, and change is coming.

#adoption #adoptionjourney #adoptee #adopteevoices #adopteestories #adopteemovement #adopteesconnect #adopteesspeak #kad #koreanadoptee #tra #transracialadoptee #adopteecommunity

When I was at @dibrunobros today, I saw a tour gui

When I was at @dibrunobros today, I saw a tour guide talking about the history of the cheese shop, the floors, and how the website went up in 1994. No sooner did I take my card back was the tour guide standing next to me, asking if I could step down a bit so she could show the women with her her favorite section.⁣⁣
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I looked down and saw "adopt a cheese orphan today". The tour guide gushed about how the "orphan cheeses" are the "leftovers no one wants that they can't sell".⁣⁣
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I was equal parts horrified and enraged. I wanted to scream at her, at the women who were saying what a good idea this was. I wanted to speak with a manager and demand an explanation. Instead, I left and screamed in my car.⁣⁣
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I know there are going to be people who say, "It's just cheese - it's not meant to be serious" or "you're so sensitive about everything" or "why do you always need to make it an issue". But it's my life - and the lives of so many others.
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First of all, let's just talk about this on a syntax level. "Adopt an orphan cheese" - are you agreeing to be the cheese's guardian? Are you going to care for, support, and love the cheese as though you had created it yourself? If the answer to these questions is no, then "adopt" is the wrong word. Shit, even if the answer is yes, “adopt” is still the wrong word. Also, I'm not even going to touch the word "orphan" lest I be here forever.⁣⁣
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Secondly, let's look at the transactional nature of this entire thing. By "adopt", that DiBruno really means is "buy". And what is adoption if not a transaction? Am I nothing more than a piece of fucking cheese? This is my entire issue with adopting highways and elephants in Africa and fucking pandas...these are living, breathing entities. We are not things. Despite the fact that adoptees have been, and continue to be commodified, does not mean we are stock, does not mean we are products, does not make us less human. But dumb shit like this makes me personally feel less than human.⁣..and it’s constant.
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#adoption #adoptionjourney #adoptee #adopteevoices #adopteestories #adopteemovement #adopteesconnect #adopteesspeak #kad #koreanadoptee #tra #transracialadoptee #adopteecommunity

So in love with my new pop socket by @houseofleehw

So in love with my new pop socket by @houseofleehwa! Now all I need is a new case to stick it on!

We came. We saw. We ate. @eatflannel - we will be

We came. We saw. We ate. @eatflannel - we will be back, but right now we gotta waddle out!

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